The Wedding Curveball
Why Your Plan B Might Be Better Than Your Plan A
AI generated photo of a wedding couple screaming as their wedding cake crashes to the ground.
“The best laid plans of mice and men often go awry.”
I doubt Robert Burns was planning a wedding when he wrote this iconic line, but—as with much from the masterful Scottish poet—there’s truth in every turn of phrase.
Planning a wedding can be both the most incredible experience of your life—and the most maddening. Even if you account for every possible scenario and have a contingency plan for each, the Wedding Gods still have the power to hurl a lightning bolt of chaos on your special day.
As a guest, I’ve been to weddings where water towers (those decorative dispensers with fresh-cut basil and lemon) toppled just as the bride was about to say, “I do.” I’ve seen cakes melt in the sun, flower girls sit down mid-aisle in protest, and a ring bearer dog bolt after a squirrel at the absolute worst moment.
There was the wedding where a video drone lost power and crash-landed inches from Grandma. I’ve seen venues double-booked, a best man too drunk to find the rings, an uncle with surprise heart attack (turned out to be indigestion), a forest wedding at the wrong GPS location—and yes, the dreaded cash bar.
For the record, cash bars are the worst.
And guess what? While each of these situations might be loosely classified as calamities, they’re really gifts in disguise. Whether it’s a meddling aunt, a budget that laughs in your face, or a thunderstorm that crashes your garden ceremony, adversity is part of the package. It’s not the villain—it’s the plot twist. And like any good rom-com, the twist is what makes the story worth telling.
Nobody should court disaster but knowing how to roll with the punches is the first of many lessons you’ll learn as you start this next chapter of your life. Hopefully, you’re bringing something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue to the altar—but you might also want to slip in a little patience, grace, and a sense of humor.
Patience for the delays, grace for the missteps, and humor for the moments that go hilariously wrong. These are the real heirlooms—the emotional keepsakes that will serve you far beyond the big day. Because when the cake topples, the playlist glitches, or the flower girl moonwalks back to the car, you’ll want to be the kind of person who smiles and says, “Well… that’s going in the scrapbook.”
Besides, you’re going to need something to talk about during the honeymoon.
Embrace the Beautiful Mess
Weddings, like marriages, are unpredictable. They’re not about perfection—they’re about connection, resilience, and the joy in the face of the unexpected. So, when things go sideways, smile. You’re not losing control—you’re gaining a story.
And while I can’t stop your cousin from bringing his pet ferret to the reception, as your officiant I can help keep the chaos to a minimum. With dozens of weddings under my belt, I’ve seen a lot and every single wedding has been an incredible experience. From crafting a personalized ceremony to calming nerves before the walk down the aisle, I’m here to listen, guide, and celebrate your love in a way that feels true to you.
Let’s make your wedding unforgettable—for all the right reasons.
Contact me for a free consultation, and let’s talk about your dreams, your story, and how we can make your ceremony the heart of your big day.
